{"id":5554,"date":"2024-05-17T16:03:22","date_gmt":"2024-05-17T16:03:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/?p=5554"},"modified":"2025-12-10T23:23:26","modified_gmt":"2025-12-10T23:23:26","slug":"what-is-a-swinger-and-gatekeeping-in-the-lifestyle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/what-is-a-swinger-and-gatekeeping-in-the-lifestyle\/","title":{"rendered":"You&#8217;re a Fake Swinger! Gatekeeping in the Lifestyle"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"5554\" class=\"elementor elementor-5554\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f188d8 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8f188d8\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bb027e9 bg-border e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"bb027e9\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e50d29f main-head e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e50d29f\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4edbeba elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4edbeba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">You're a Fake Swinger! Gatekeeping in the Lifestyle<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a436bcb main-head e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"a436bcb\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8102b5f elementor-widget-mobile__width-inherit elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8102b5f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">New Swinger Podcast | <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/vanilla-swingers-a-swinger-podcast-for-newbies-by\/id1734698162?i=1000648262464\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Apple<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/6LxiVFR7bd6FVkVw7wGU8D?si=025a32aebab54841\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Spotify<\/a><\/h5>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce2b002 elementor-widget__width-inherit spotifyplayer elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"ce2b002\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<iframe style=\"border-radius:12px\" data-src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/6LxiVFR7bd6FVkVw7wGU8D?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\"  frameBorder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e65d9ce elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e65d9ce\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>Join Kat &amp; Leo for a hilarious romp as they share their take on gatekeeping in the lifestyle. What IS a swinger? Who gets to be a part of the secret underground club? Also&#8230; how the heck do you keep swinging a secret from vanilla friends and family?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a0aed4c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a0aed4c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">By: <u>Kat Swings<\/u><\/h5>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c6a3eef highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c6a3eef\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d2076c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7d2076c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Picture this: a world where monogamy isn&#8217;t the only game in town, where couples delve into the deliciously daring realm of swinging. But hold onto your hats, &#8217;cause Kat &amp; Leo are about to spill the tea on what swinging is all about in the newest <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Vanilla Swingers podcast<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-88f0cee elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"88f0cee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>At its core, swinging is like the ultimate relationship remix, where consenting adults jazz up their love lives by getting down and dirty with others outside their primary partnership. Yep, you heard that right \u2013 it&#8217;s all about <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">consensual, non-monogamous<\/span><\/strong> fun that&#8217;s hotter than a jalape\u00f1o on a summer day!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c92c4cd highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c92c4cd\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54f740d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"54f740d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">What is a Swinger?<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c30a28b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c30a28b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>You\u2019re a fake swinger! Ever been accused of that?<br \/>While the gatekeepers of the lifestyle will tell you a swinger is defined strictly by a couple who swaps with another couple for sex, Merriam Webster actually defines <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">swinger<\/span><\/strong> with a bit more broad brushstroke:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-783ebec highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"783ebec\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d54234f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d54234f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">swinger  <span style=\"color: #4a7d95;\">noun (1)<\/span><\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-97b1327 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"97b1327\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>swing\u2022er <span style=\"color: #0074dd;\">swi`\u014b-\u0259r<\/span><br \/><b>b: one who engages freely in sex<\/b><\/p><p>A swinger is someone who&#8217;s like the rebel of romance, rewriting the love rulebook with a touch of adventure! They dive into<strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"> consensual ethical non-monogamous (ENM)\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>relationships, swapping partners, engaging in group sex, exploring fantasies, and hitting up sexy swinger parties with gusto. It&#8217;s all about open communication, trust, and a whole lot of spice in the bedroom. So if you&#8217;re ready to shake things up and explore love in a whole new light, welcome to the swinging scene \u2013 where every day is an adventure!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e097f15 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e097f15\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59efa22 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"59efa22\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"680\" height=\"921\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-3.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-5839\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-3.png 680w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-3-221x300.png 221w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e6678e4 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e6678e4\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a80b6ee elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a80b6ee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Welcome to the Swinging Spectrum!<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1cc226a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1cc226a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Welcome to the swinging spectrum, where pleasure comes in all shapes, sizes, and levels of daring! First up, we&#8217;ve got the full swap \u2013 the granddaddy of swinging styles, where partners dive headfirst into exchanging all sorts of steamy delights. Full penetration, <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">full swap<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p><p>Feeling a bit more cautious? Enter the realm of <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">soft swap<\/span><\/strong>, where the action stops short of full-on penetration but still leaves hearts racing and pulses pounding. Think mouths everywhere, sucking, licking, biting\u2026<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ef26594 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"ef26594\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-383de47 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"383de47\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"680\" height=\"510\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-4.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-5853 lazyload\" alt=\"\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-4.png 680w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-4-300x225.png 300w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 680px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 680\/510;\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8017d90 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8017d90\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Don\u2019t let the bouncers keep you behind the velvet rope of swinging \u2013 you too belong!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-234b553 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"234b553\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-80aec56 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"80aec56\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>But wait, there&#8217;s more! For those who like to keep it tantalizingly tame, there&#8217;s <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">parallel play<\/span><\/strong> \u2013 where couples get their groove on staying with their own partner, side by side with another couple. Parallel play with hands ups the ante and brings on a whole new level of hot, where stray hands from random partners add to the heat.<\/p><p>Of course there\u2019s all the acronyms\u2026 <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">MFM <\/span><\/strong>&amp; <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">FFM<\/span><\/strong> which are just fancy ways of saying <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">threesomes<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p><p>Feeling a little <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">voyeuristic<\/span><\/strong>? Slip into the world of watching others in the throes of passion \u2013 it&#8217;s like Netflix, but way hotter! And last but not least, there&#8217;s exhibitionism \u2013 where showing off your bedroom antics becomes the ultimate aphrodisiac.<\/p><p>So, whether you&#8217;re diving deep or just dipping your toes, there&#8217;s a swinging style to suit every taste and desire. And every single one these can be defined a swinger. Y\u2019know if you\u2019re adding more people than just you and your partner into the bedroom, you\u2019re probably a swinger.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-097e97a elementor-position-left elementor-vertical-align-middle elementor-mobile-position-left elementor-view-default elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-box\" data-id=\"097e97a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/elementor\/css\/custom-widget-icon-box.min.css?ver=1766267327\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-wrapper\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/mfm-threesomes-how-to-make-her-the-star\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"elementor-icon elementor-animation-\" tabindex=\"-1\">\n\t\t\t\t<svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-comment-dots\" viewBox=\"0 0 512 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M256 32C114.6 32 0 125.1 0 240c0 49.6 21.4 95 57 130.7C44.5 421.1 2.7 466 2.2 466.5c-2.2 2.3-2.8 5.7-1.5 8.7S4.8 480 8 480c66.3 0 116-31.8 140.6-51.4 32.7 12.3 69 19.4 107.4 19.4 141.4 0 256-93.1 256-208S397.4 32 256 32zM128 272c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32zm128 0c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32zm128 0c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-content\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-icon-box-title\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/mfm-threesomes-how-to-make-her-the-star\/\" target=\"_blank\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tPSST! Don't Miss!\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h4>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-icon-box-description\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\tMFM Threesomes\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1263ed0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1263ed0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Welcome to the Club!<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a215fa6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a215fa6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>So old school folks, welcome the newbie swingers with open arms. After all, everyone has to start somewhere, even the baby swingers or swinger adjacent. With their fresh energy and fearless spirit, baby swingers are the next generation ready to turn up the heat in the swinging scene.<\/p><p>So, whether you&#8217;re dipping your toes into the soft swap pool or diving headfirst into full-on swinging extravaganzas, welcome! Strap in, buckle up, and get ready for a rollercoaster ride of pleasure that&#8217;ll leave you breathless and begging for more.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-abc6952 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"abc6952\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02949ec elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"02949ec\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"680\" height=\"887\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-5.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-5890 lazyload\" alt=\"\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-5.png 680w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-5-230x300.png 230w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 680px) 100vw, 680px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 680px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 680\/887;\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-28af190 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"28af190\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-006825d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"006825d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">How to be Discreet?<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-85b6cc0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"85b6cc0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Now that you\u2019re a swinger, how the heck do you stay discreet and keep your vanilla life&nbsp;from finding out?<\/p>\n<p>Consider it the ultimate double act \u2013 and we&#8217;ve got the inside scoop on how to pull it off&nbsp;with style! First rule of thumb: master the art of the secret handshake \u2013 aka discretion is&nbsp;your best friend.<\/p>\n<p>And when it comes to social media? Less is definitely more \u2013 because nobody needs to&nbsp;know about your wild weekend escapades on Insta! So, whether you&#8217;re sipping cocktails&nbsp;with the vanilla crowd or heating things up behind closed doors with your swinging&nbsp;squad, remember: mum&#8217;s the word!<\/p>\n<p>Ever found yourself juggling your everyday phone with your secret swinger life? Yeah, been there, done that. That&#8217;s why we discovered the magic of burner phones \u2013 a discreet little gadget to keep those spicy messages. Can\u2019t risk getting a dick pic coming to my G-rated family-friendly phone!<\/p>\n<p>In the early days, you might find yourself slipping in a few dirty jokes here and there, just to see who&#8217;s paying attention. And trust us, nothing beats the thrill of keeping your vanilla life and swinging adventures separate \u2013 from planning fake cruise schedules to snapping those perfectly vanilla photos for the family album. So, grab your secret phone, perfect your poker face, and get ready to dive into the tantalizing world of discreet swinging!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3c98ff0 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"3c98ff0\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-954a2db elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"954a2db\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container{height:100%;width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty{position:relative;min-height:22px;min-width:22px}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty .elementor-widget-empty-icon,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty .elementor-widget-empty-icon{position:absolute;top:0;bottom:0;left:0;right:0;margin:auto;padding:0;width:22px;height:22px}<\/style>\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c3b6ccc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c3b6ccc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated <strong>swingers podcast<\/strong> for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb8a5ca e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"cb8a5ca\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b59a73f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b59a73f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/vanilla-swingers-a-swinger-podcast-for-newbies-by\/id1734698162?i=1000648262464\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"249\" height=\"60\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-6.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-5921 lazyload\" alt=\"\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 249px; 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An individual who embraces consensual ethical non-monogamous relationships, exploring various forms of sexual and romantic connections outside traditional monogamy.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f1e6191 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f1e6191\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Full swap:<\/strong> When consenting adult partners trade places for a night of passion that&#8217;s hotter than a summer fling. Couples trade partners and engage in sexual activities, including intercourse.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1fee699 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1fee699\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Soft swap:<\/strong> Getting oh-so-close to the edge without taking the full plunge \u2013 it&#8217;s like foreplay on steroids! A variant of full swap where partners engage in sexual activities with others, excluding intercourse, often focusing on kissing, touching, and other forms of sensual pleasure without penetration.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c67cfae elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c67cfae\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Parallel play:<\/strong> Side-by-side seduction for the ultimate tease, because sometimes watching is just as thrilling as doing. Couples engage in sexual activities with their respective partners in close proximity to other couples enjoying each other&#8217;s company while maintaining separate interactions.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a8857f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8a8857f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Voyeurism:<\/strong> The art of peeking behind closed doors, where watching becomes the sexiest form of foreplay. A practice in which individuals derive sexual pleasure from observing others engaging in intimate activities.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-459aaca elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"459aaca\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Exhibitionism:<\/strong> Putting on a show that would make Vegas blush, because why keep all that steamy action to yourself? The act of deriving sexual gratification from exposing one&#8217;s own body or engaging in sexual activities in front of others, often for the purpose of arousal or thrill.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-aa0e576 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"aa0e576\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>MFM:<\/strong> Two&#8217;s company, three&#8217;s a crowd \u2013 and in this case, that crowd&#8217;s getting down and dirty in the steamiest threesome around! An abbreviation for Male-Female-Male, referring to a sexual encounter involving two straight men and one woman, typically characterized by shared sexual activities and mutual pleasure where the woman is the center of attention.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c6d77e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4c6d77e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>FFM:<\/strong> The ultimate trifecta of temptation, when the mythical unicorn can be enticed into your bed! 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