{"id":6207,"date":"2024-05-22T01:27:57","date_gmt":"2024-05-22T01:27:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/?p=6207"},"modified":"2025-12-11T16:24:37","modified_gmt":"2025-12-11T16:24:37","slug":"why-is-girl-on-girl-hot-guy-on-guy-not-revealing-the-contradictions-of-the-lifestyle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/why-is-girl-on-girl-hot-guy-on-guy-not-revealing-the-contradictions-of-the-lifestyle\/","title":{"rendered":"Girl-on-Girl vs. Guy-on-Guy: The Lifestyle Double Standard"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"6207\" class=\"elementor elementor-6207\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f188d8 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8f188d8\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bb027e9 bg-border e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"bb027e9\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e50d29f main-head e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e50d29f\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4edbeba elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4edbeba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Why is Girl on Girl Hot, Guy on Guy Not? Lifestyle Contradictions<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a436bcb main-head e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"a436bcb\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8102b5f elementor-widget-mobile__width-inherit elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8102b5f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">New Swinger Podcast  | <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/vanilla-swingers-a-swinger-podcast-for-newbies-by\/id1734698162?i=1000649031234\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Apple<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/6Zvx3PqlG8AmuOJDglfKZJ?si=c5f87cece1904774\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Spotify<\/a><\/h5>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce2b002 spotifyplayer elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"ce2b002\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<iframe style=\"border-radius:12px\" data-src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/6Zvx3PqlG8AmuOJDglfKZJ?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" frameBorder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e65d9ce elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e65d9ce\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>Join Kat &amp; Leo as we discuss the many curious contradictions and glaring hypocrisies found in the lifestyle&#8230; From why girl-on-girl play is hot, but guy-on-guy play is not? To the sexy double standard that women for women in the LS&#8230; plus how come the swingers don&#8217;t like the polys?<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-23cd9df elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"23cd9df\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">By: <u>Kat Swings<\/u><\/h5>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c6a3eef highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c6a3eef\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d2076c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7d2076c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the world of <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">ethical non-monogamy<\/span>, where boundaries are pushed and norms are challenged, contradictions lurk in the shadows, waiting to be discovered. Join Kat &amp; Leo as they delve into the saucy underbelly of the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Lifestyle<\/span> and uncover the paradoxes that keep it tantalizingly complex in this episode of the <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Vanilla Swingers podcast<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c92c4cd highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c92c4cd\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54f740d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"54f740d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Girl-on-Girl Hot, Guy-on-Guy Not<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c30a28b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c30a28b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Picture this: a sizzling scene of girl-on-girl action ignites applause and admiration, while the mere mention of guy-on-guy play elicits uncomfortable shifts and raised eyebrows. It&#8217;s a perplexing double standard that begs the question: why is one form of expression celebrated while the other is frowned upon? Isn&#8217;t hotness subjective, regardless of gender?<\/p><p>However the unspoken rule in the swinging world, is that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">bisexual women<\/span> are revered while bi-men are barely tolerated. Most bi-men tend to keep their tendencies in the closet, for fear of censure. It\u2019s largely a hetero-fest for men, while women are encouraged to be <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">heteroflexible<\/span>. This lack of inclusivity perpetuates the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">heteronormative<\/span> mindset that dominates the lifestyle, stifling true diversity and expression.<\/p><p>But maybe that has more to do with the next contradiction\u2026.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f085c0d elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"f085c0d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"532\" height=\"357\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/rainbow.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-6209\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/rainbow.jpg 532w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/rainbow-300x201.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 532px) 100vw, 532px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e6678e4 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e6678e4\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a80b6ee elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a80b6ee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Traditional Values vs. Freaky Fridays<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1cc226a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1cc226a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the lifestyle, you&#8217;ll find a curious juxtaposition of traditional family values and unapologetic hedonism. The party of family values reigns supreme in the lifestyle. While it may seem like a more liberal minded demographic would dominate the lifestyle, the vast majority of couples come from traditional family structures.\u00a0 So curious enough, many couples may spend their Sundays in pious reverence at church, only to unleash their wild sides come Friday night.\u00a0<\/p><p>But what drives this curious dynamic? Perhaps it&#8217;s the allure of forbidden fruit, the tantalizing prospect of exploring realms outside the confines of societal norms. After all, isn&#8217;t there something thrilling about indulging in pleasures that are deemed taboo by the outside world?<\/p><p>Yet, amidst the hedonistic parties, echoes of tradition linger. It&#8217;s a delicate dance between the old and the new, the familiar and the unknown.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-383de47 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"383de47\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"566\" height=\"436\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/cardecal.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-6379 lazyload\" alt=\"\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/cardecal.jpg 566w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/cardecal-300x231.jpg 300w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 566px) 100vw, 566px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 566px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 566\/436;\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-234b553 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"234b553\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-af38d9d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"af38d9d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Male-Dominated Male-Centric Lifestyle<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d54c13f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d54c13f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the tantalizing world of the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Lifestyle<\/span>, where boundaries blur and fantasies run wild, there&#8217;s a simmering undercurrent that challenges the notion of female dominance. Despite the chatter about women ruling the roost, it often feels like the game is rigged in favor of the male gaze, leaving many of us feeling like mere pawns in a male-centric chess match.<\/p><p>Sure, women may hold the keys to unlocking sexual encounters, but scratch beneath the surface, and you&#8217;ll find a landscape dominated by male desires and fantasies. How many times have we heard tales of women <strong><em><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">&#8220;taking one for the team&#8221;<\/span><\/em><\/strong> while their male counterparts sit pretty? It&#8217;s a scenario as old as time, where women are expected to play the role of fantasy fulfillers while men call the shots.\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02949ec elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"02949ec\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1698\" height=\"475\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/comic-1.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-6380 lazyload\" alt=\"\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/comic-1.jpg 1698w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/comic-1-300x84.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/comic-1-1024x286.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/comic-1-768x215.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/comic-1-1536x430.jpg 1536w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1698px) 100vw, 1698px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1698px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1698\/475;\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8bf657 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b8bf657\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Scantily Clad Women Wanted!<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e670bd5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e670bd5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Ah, the age-old dilemma of the dress code: women are expected to flaunt their curves in the skimpiest of outfits, while men can get away with throwing on a pair of trusty cargo shorts or, at best, a nice dress shirt and trousers. It&#8217;s as if the fashion police have issued a gendered decree, leaving women to navigate a maze of revealing attire while men stroll through with minimal effort.<\/p><p>Again this harkens back to the swinging world being dominated by the male gaze, so the burden of sexiness continues to fall on her shoulders.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a6aa7d7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a6aa7d7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #808080;\">&#8220;And women will likely continue to have to \u2018take one for the team.'&#8221;<\/span><\/h4>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8ac1fd8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"8ac1fd8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1921\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-scaled.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-6212 lazyload\" alt=\"\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-scaled.jpg 2560w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-1536x1153.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/marvin-meyer-hwkTELbKW2s-unsplash-2048x1537.jpg 2048w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 2560px) 100vw, 2560px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 2560px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 2560\/1921;\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e8b57d1 elementor-position-left elementor-vertical-align-middle elementor-mobile-position-left elementor-view-default elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-box\" data-id=\"e8b57d1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/elementor\/css\/custom-widget-icon-box.min.css?ver=1766267327\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-wrapper\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/what-is-a-swinger-and-gatekeeping-in-the-lifestyle\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"elementor-icon elementor-animation-\" tabindex=\"-1\">\n\t\t\t\t<svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-comment-dots\" viewBox=\"0 0 512 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M256 32C114.6 32 0 125.1 0 240c0 49.6 21.4 95 57 130.7C44.5 421.1 2.7 466 2.2 466.5c-2.2 2.3-2.8 5.7-1.5 8.7S4.8 480 8 480c66.3 0 116-31.8 140.6-51.4 32.7 12.3 69 19.4 107.4 19.4 141.4 0 256-93.1 256-208S397.4 32 256 32zM128 272c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32zm128 0c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32zm128 0c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-content\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-icon-box-title\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/what-is-a-swinger-and-gatekeeping-in-the-lifestyle\/\" target=\"_blank\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tPSST! 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(Fun, Irreverent, and Maybe Passably Useful)<\/h3>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cc95e23 elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"cc95e23\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<iframe width=\"560\" height=\"315\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/uxpDa-c-4Mc?si=HLAoXbRPKHqiZDj4\" title=\"YouTube video player\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8cbb13f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8cbb13f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Swinger Lingo (check <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/swinger-glossary-dictionary-lingo\/\">Swinger Dictionary<\/a> for more!)<\/h3>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a1f0051 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a1f0051\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Ethical Non-Monogamy:<\/strong> The golden rule of the swinging world, where trust, honesty, and communication reign supreme in the pursuit of pleasure. This relationship model is characterized by mutual consent, honesty, and communication, allowing individuals to engage in romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners while prioritizing respect and emotional well-being.<\/p><p><strong>Hetero Flexible:<\/strong> A saucy term for those who usually swing one way but are open to bending the rules for the right playdate! Referring to individuals primarily attracted to the opposite gender but open to occasional same-sex encounters<\/p><p><strong>Heteronormative:<\/strong> A term describing the societal expectation that heterosexuality is the default or normal sexual orientation. Society&#8217;s way of saying &#8216;straight is the default,&#8217; like it&#8217;s the only vanilla flavor on the menu.<\/p><p><strong>Taking one for the team:<\/strong> Graciously engaging with a partner you might not be particularly attracted to in order to ensure everyone in the group gets some action. 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