After 2 years in the lifestyle and veering out of our swingermoon, we figured it was time to slow down for 5 minutes (rare) and count the things we’re actually thankful for. Not the Hallmark stuff – the lifestyle stuff. The messy, sexy, hilarious things that made these past twenty-four months unforgettable. So grab a drink, grab a partner, and let’s get grateful… swinger-style.
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🧑🤝🧑 People Who Make This Ride Worth It
We’re endlessly grateful for all the play partners who’ve crossed our path and left their mark, sometimes literally (ahem, Drago and the poison oak!). From the couple who casually popped our full-swap cherry to the 2 throuples who bring more than just sexy fun – they bring connection, laughter, and just enough emotional chaos to keep us toeing the poly-lite line. Not kitchen table poly, though. Let’s not get crazy, we’re still way too jealous for that.
We’re thankful for the boy who shall remain unnamed but managed to end what we now refer to as The Great MFM Drought of 2025 – an 11-week stretch I never plan to repeat again. And then there was the mystery girl in a dark room, 2 years ago in Amsterdam, who leaned in and whispered, “Can I kiss you?” That one moment cracked open an entire world of girl-girl play I didn’t even know I wanted… and haven’t stopped craving since.
And of course, to all the unicorns we’ve met along the way – those sparkly, slutty, hilarious goddesses who keep our group chats filthy, our playdates unpredictable, and our lives a whole lot more fun. They are the glitter glue that holds our lifestyle journey together. Goodness knows, it ain’t the single guys holding it together! LOL.
💬 Swinger Friends & Sexy Strangers
This lifestyle handed us something we never saw coming – a crew of people we can openly talk spicy with, like actual brunch convos about DP logistics and group play etiquette without anyone flinching. We’re thankful for the friends who can shift from eye contact mid-threesome to deep life chats in the hot tub, and for the sexters who don’t just talk a big game but actually show up mid-MFF. You’re rare. You’re awesome.
And then there are the spicy diary friends – the ones we text the morning after with the play-by-play and the emotional fallout. The ones we’ve only met virtually, and yet somehow trust more than people we’ve known for years. Friends we’ve visited in cities we barely knew, friends who’ve invited us to crash on their couches and cuddle up in their guest beds after too many cocktails and too few boundaries. The lifestyle has expanded our social circle ten-fold, and we wouldn’t trade a second of it – not even the awkward meet-and-greets or the “so… are we doing this?” moments.
💋 The Sexy Fun (Obviously)
Let’s be honest – the sexy fun is incredible, but it’s so much more than that. After years of monogamy, routines, and being good little married people, we had no idea what kind of wild ride we were in for. The lifestyle cracked something wide open – freedom, expression, curiosity, and kinks we didn’t even know existed. 2 years ago, Leo casually burped the Tupperware, looked me dead in the eye, and described something involving two dicks at the same time. I blinked. My jaw dropped. And something inside me whispered… wait, you can do that? That moment will go down in history as the birth of Kat’s MFM obsession, and honestly, we’ve never looked back.
Thank you to Le Mask – our very first swinger club and the spark that lit the whole damn fire. With its moody lighting, velvet shadows, and just the right amount of mystery, it seduced us into a world we didn’t even know we were hungry for. We didn’t just discover new positions – we discovered new parts of ourselves.
🎉 Events, Clubs, and the Chaos
From Naughty N’awlins to Bliss Cruise, we are forever grateful for the parties that feel more like adult Disneyland – with pasties. Bliss gave us a sexy playground on the high seas, and Naughty gave us Bourbon Street meets body glitter meets sexy fun in the hallway between playrooms. And of course, we’ll never forget Denver and Scarlet Ranch – our swingermoon stomping grounds and the site of so many unforgettable nights (and unholy mornings). And the MFFFF… Memories!
Shoutout to BYOB swinger clubs for letting us bring our champagne and save our cheap butts. You get us. You respect our brand. You are the VIPs of the lifestyle nightlife scene.
💪 The Lifestyle Itself
We’re thankful for this crazy, colorful, sometimes-chaotic world we dove into headfirst. The lifestyle keeps us busy, adventurous, and way too motivated to ever get boring. It gave our marriage a new dimension, our sex life a second (and third) wind, and our day-to-day routine a sparkly pink middle finger to anything resembling vanilla monotony. It gave us stories we’ll be telling forever – and abs we’ll keep pretending are from the gym, not just the bedroom.
🎧 To Our Listeners, With Love
And to our listeners – you make this whole damn thing worth it. Every podcast episode, every blog post, every long night podding in a parked car with 2 mics between us and zero soundproofing… it’s all for you. Whether you’re a day-one freak or a curious newbie just dipping your toe in, we are stupidly, endlessly thankful for you. You’ve laughed with us, cried with us, judged us a little (fair), and reminded us every week why we started sharing our story in the first place. You are the best part of this whole journey, and we hope you never stop eavesdropping on our chaos.
So cheers to two years of swinging, swapping, and surviving. We’re grateful for every awkward first meet, every magical night, and every lesson along the way. And we’re not even close to done.
Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated swingers podcast for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!
Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
Swingermoon: Kat & Leo’s coined term – that electrifying, toe-curling honeymoon phase of swinging – 1-2 years of NRE-fueled madness where every night feels like a sexy adventure, and you’ve fully cannonballed into the deep end!
Upside down pineapple: The secret signal that whispers “we swing” without saying a word, turning every gathering into a tantalizing adventure. Leo & Kat’s signature move at every supermarket: flipping a pineapple upside down in the produce aisle, sparking whispers and winks from fellow shoppers.
Lifestyle: More than just a hobby – it’s a way of life filled with passion, pleasure, and endless possibilities. The blanket term used to describe the swinging community and its associated practices, beliefs, and values, emphasizing consensual ethical non-monogamous relationships, open communication, and sexual exploration.
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