Top 7 MFM Positions for the Perfect Threesome

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Double the d*cks, double the fun. Here are Kat’s go-to MFM threesome positions – from flirty handjobs to full-blown DP – and why your next game night might turn into something much hotter.

By: Kat Swings

So you’ve got two guys, one queen-sized bed, and a Feeld chat that’s been spicy all week. Whether it’s your first MFM or your favorite Friday night flex, I’ve got you. These positions? Handpicked. Field-tested. Fully Kat-approved.

Honestly, I’m a sucker for starting things slow, especially with one of my infamous Truth or Dare icebreaker rounds. You’d be amazed how fast a “tell us your favorite position” can spiral into someone getting their belt undone. Once everyone’s warmed up and laughing? We are off to the races!

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✋ 1. Double Handjob

Nothing says “let’s begin” like stroking two hard cocks at once. You’re sitting pretty between them, maybe on the couch – one in each hand—watching their eyes flutter while you don’t even break a sweat. It’s intimate, easy to laugh through, and a perfect way to break the ice after Kat’s Truth or Dare turns from cheeky to cheeky-cheeky.

Kat’s Tips:

Focus more attention on your third. He’s new, maybe terrified, and could use more hand-holding (ha!)
Talk dirty while you stroke – double the ego boost, double the fun.
You could get on the floor and look up at both of them, with those oh-so-innocent eyes.

🔁 2. The Change-Up

More flirty appetizers before the main course. Be a slow tease. She’s kneeling, they’re standing. You’ve now moved from handjob to blowjob, and they’re in 7th heaven. You alternate between giving a blowjob to one while stroking the other. No one’s bored, and everyone gets a turn to moan and do some eye-rolling. The MFM just got a whole helluva lot more fun.

Kat’s Take:
This is always my go-to when we’re in the “are we doing this?” phase. Nothing breaks the tension like switching back and forth and hearing two different types of groans at once. Yum!

Variations:

Add eye contact with the one waiting – it drives them crazy.
Toss in a little dirty talk about who tastes better (they love it).

🍑 3. Three’s Company

We’re still in full soft-swap mode, teasing before full entry. Cocks at the ready, waiting and straining for more. Flat on your back, one guy is between your legs feasting on you while you tussle his hair and a nice hard cock in your mouth? It’s a multitasking fantasy with a full-body payoff. The guy on your face should take his time. The one between your thighs? If he’s using fingers, he’s very likely to send you to your first O of the night, muffled ecstatic moans with that other cock stuffed in your mouth.

Kat’s Take: It’s one of the most delicious sensory overloads I’ve ever had. Especially when one makes me squirt.

Tips:

Communicate breathing needs with taps or gentle pressure. Deep throat if you know how!
Switch positions halfway through for symmetry (and to avoid jaw lock).

🐶 4. Doggy Blowjob

Ah the main course finally!! This is a vibe shift in the best way. One guy lies down while you give him a blowjob, and the other enters you from behind. You’re being filled and giving, like a threesome seesaw of pleasure. The rhythm? Absolutely everything.

Kat’s Take:
Lock eyes with the guy in front of you while you’re on all fours – serving him your sweetest mouthful – and moan around his cock as the other guy rocks into you from behind.

Hot Tip: The guy behind can reach around and stroke your clit while the other one moans into your mouth. Or you can use a vibrator! Teamwork makes the dreamwork.

🍖 5. Spitroast (with Optional Eiffel Tower)

The crowd favorite. You’re on all fours with one guy in front for a blowjob and one behind for full penetration. They can high-five over you if you’re into that frat-boy flavor (yes that’s the Eiffel Tower in all its glory) but honestly, the real high comes from feeling completely surrounded. The classic has you face one way the whole time, but you can absolutely flip directions mid-scene. I’ve spun around to change sides like a very slutty rotisserie chicken.

Variations: One Reddit thread I can’t unsee (and desperately want to reenact) featured a girl on a spinning desk chair, getting slowly rotated between two men for a rotating spitroast. Iconic. Someone please bring me a business chair and two helpful volunteers. Immediately.

🤠 6. Ride & Blow

Reverse cowgirl + blowjob = power move. One guy lies down while you ride him (facing away), and the second guy stands or kneels in front for oral. You’re literally in the driver’s seat and giving a passenger a thrill. Especially wild as the blowjob receiver is standing on the bed (yes, on the bed) towering over you like a sexy statue, while you do your best not to lose rhythm.

Variations:

Try facing front if you want more control.
Add nipple play if your hands are free (or let the guy beneath you help) or a handy vibrator if you’re Kat!

💥 7. Classic Deadpool (Double Penetration)

This is it. The Big One. The Fantasy. The Position That Started It All. One guy beneath you in cowgirl, the other behind you for anal = pure DP magic. Everything’s full. Every nerve ending is awake. And yes, it takes finesse, but when it works? You’ll feel like a fricking goddess.

Kat’s Confession:
Double penetration is my favorite position of all time. When the rhythm hits just right? You ascend. Just keep the angle around 45° forward to help both guys stay in.

Pro Tips:

Use lots of lube. Like, “hotel housekeeping will be confused” amounts.
Practice with toys if you’ve never done anal + vaginal at the same time.
Try DVP if anal is not your thing. Still hot, still wild, still filling.
Communicate. Constantly. And expect some laughs.

✅ Kat's Final Thoughts

Once you’ve gotten past the nervous giggles and the icebreaker dares, you’ll know if the vibe is on. No matter where you start—hands, mouths, or both—MFM is about energy, chemistry, and letting yourself be worshipped from every angle. Don’t overthink it. Stay hydrated. Laugh when someone’s knee cramps mid-position change. And if you lose the rhythm, reset at a spitroast and try again.

Because honestly? You deserve to be the main character… with two men in supporting roles who know their lines and hit their marks. Think you’ve got what it takes to be in a Kat sandwich? BYO towel.

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Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)

MFM: Kat’s favorite! Two’s company, three’s a crowd – and in this case, that crowd’s getting down and dirty in the steamiest threesome around! An abbreviation for Male-Female-Male, referring to a sexual threesome involving two straight men and one woman, where the woman is the center of attention.

DP: Double the pleasure, double the fun – because why settle for one when you can have both? An abbreviation for “double penetration,” a sexual activity where a female partner is simultaneously penetrated in both the vagina and the ass by different partners or objects. What Kat & Leo affectionately call Deadpool.

Double barrel: A steamy, two-for-one oral extravaganza where one adventurous woman simultaneously pleasures two men, delivering a double dose of ecstasy.

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